Moms, Trust Yourself!

Buddhists say that humans have a brilliant, bright nature. There might be clouds in front of this nature, but it’s always there. I see parents full of worry and guilt because they are concerned that they will be the cause of their child’s clouds covering their bright sun. Yes, as parents we do have a big influence on our kids path. Yet, the more we step back and allow them to create their own path, within the boundaries we set so they don’t get lost, they can radiate their brilliance.

Kids have their own karma and life path they bring with them, we need to just do a good enough amount of nurturing of them along their path. Their path is not our path. We walk side by side.

Knowing when to hold boundaries and when to let them wander is the art of parenting. It’s going to be different for each child. You aren’t going to get it perfect and really if you did get it perfect then your child will be very disappointed with everyone else because they won’t be perfect- just human.

Actually, the enlightened masters would allow their students to suffer and make mistakes, knowing this is how they would develop compassion and wisdom. Most importantly, the masters would always hold a vision of their student’s brilliant, bright nature. They trusted their nature would shine though with the master’s guidance and structure. The master’s trusted themselves and therefore the students could learn to trust themselves too.

Yes, as moms each day we are making it up and winging it. We are not enlightened masters. Unless we are negligent or very indulgent, we are good enough. Maybe the enlightened masters just aimed for good enough and realized that was enough- thereby let go of self judgement and became enlightened? You know you love your kid. You know you always try your best. I say that’s good enough.